The first stage of caregiving comes as a shock to most people, but it hits few as hard as it does the patient’s loved ones. Whether the diagnosis is Alzheimer’s, dementia or a terminal disease, the new is never what we want to hear.
When the diagnosis is made, we often feel scared and sad. There begins a frantic search for information on the diagnosis, treatments available, quality of life factors and life expectancy.
In addition to dealing with the emotions involved, it is important to think about logistics.
- Who will care for the loved one?
- Will siblings be able to agree on treatments for an elder parent?
- What resources are available in the community?
- What government benefits may be available to offset costs?
- If there is a spouse, will there be enough funds to provide the needed care for the sick parent, while sustaining a quality of life for the healthy spouse?
During this first stage, it is important to seek guidance from both peers that have been in your shoes, and also from an elder law attorney. Protecting your loved one’s assets and ensuring there is funding for needed care should be a top priority.
