No one would apply for a job like that. Yet, 80 percent of all chronically-ill patients are cared for by family members who often lack adequate support, finances, and training for this demanding job. Often times the decision to become a caregiver is made when your loved one is diagnosed with an illness or during hospitalization.
In my practice, I see a lot of frazzled family members, and I’ve found that it’s important for the caregiver to receive counseling and support because depression, exhaustion, guilt, and anger can overpower an individual faced with these challenging responsibilities.
Here are a few steps that can help alleviate some of the stress and ensure that everyone has a safe and happy holiday.
- SIMPLIFY – Drastic changes in routine can be upsetting. Stick to the same basic schedule while rolling with the punches whenever necessary.
- PREPARE – Update friends and relatives on your loved one’s condition so there are no surprises.
- BE POSITIVE – Have a sense of humor and maintain a positive attitude.
- GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK – You don’t have to do it all yourself. Let family and friends help. Day care workers, adult day care centers, and respite care centers are also great resources.
- FOCUS – Focus on what’s really important.
- CALL – Call our office for a free copy of the “Twelve Steps for Caregivers.” You may not be able to control the disease, but you can control how it affects you.
- REMEMBER — When that “Job that Nobody Wants” becomes overwhelming, understand that even the most devoted caregiver will probably need to find alternatives for taking care of their loved one.
Paul Stano has written a new book entitled The Alzheimer’s Survival Guide: Seven Secrets of Estate Planning for People with Memory Loss and Dementia. All proceeds from the book are being donated to the Alzheimer’s Association. For instant free access to the Alzheimer’s Survival Guide eBook, or for more information on caregiver resources, please visit Mr. Stano’s Ohio Elder Law web site.
