When your loved one takes residence in a nursing home or is otherwise institutionalized, your role of a caregiver changes, but does not end. Your role switches from providing care directly to advocating for your loved ones best interest.
The good news is that your life can have more of a routine. You will likely have better eating and sleeping habits, knowing that your loved on is safe and in good hands. However, this stage also tends to bring with it a lot of guilt. It is completely normal to feel guilty for placing your loved one in a nursing home. The support of family and friends will be critical to your emotional well being during this time.
To properly advocate for your loved one, you must stay informed. Visiting as often as possible will help you recognize red flags that may be signs of neglect. Regular contact with doctors and nurses will allow you to be prepared for changes and decisions that will need to be made. Ask questions of everyone, you can never be overly informed.
If you feel that any type of abuse or neglect is happening, report it. You cannot be too protective of your loved one during this time, especially if he or she cannot communicate clearly with caregivers. An elder law attorney can help you through this process.
