If those we became responsible for caring for were healthy, we wouldn’t need to begin caring for them in the first place. The sad reality is that we care for our elder loved ones because the end is nearing. This knowledge rarely lessons the overwhelming grief we feel when the time actually comes, and our loved on passes.
Relief from the responsibilities of caregiving does not lesson the pain of the loss. People will tell you that your loved one is in a better place, no longer confused or in pain. The pain you feel is real, and natural, and should not be ignored.
It takes most people a year or more to truly complete the grieving process. Unfortunately, our lives and commitments don’t typically allow us this much time. Take things day by day, and allow yourself the time to grieve. Initially, the grief can be debilitating. If you find yourself unable to handle the daily tasks of life, it’s probably time to get some help.
Your support network is important during this phase of being a caregiver, but if you feel overwhelmed by emotions, responsibilities for funeral arrangements or any other aspect of the process seek professional help.
An experienced elder law attorney is a valuable asset during this time. There will likely be funeral expenses to cover, an estate to manage and bills to be paid. Don’t try to manage everything alone, you need to take time for yourself during this difficult stage of caregiving.
